divorce

if i were to tell you that i recently left a 47 year relationship that was verbally, emotionally and at times physically abusive what would your reaction be?  some might say good for you!  you go girl!  about time!  what took you so long!  i think people would for the most part be supportive.

now what if i told you the man i now never ever want to see, talk to, be involved with in any way shape or form is my father?  now you start getting the judgements.  he is your father.  honor your father.  i lost my father you should appreciate him while he is still alive.  oh, you will get over it.  what is it about a parent that sets people off?  that gives them the unwritten right to tell you how you should behave?  an abusive man - good job, leave his miserable ass!  an abusive parent - what is wrong with YOU! 

my answer:  walk a mile.  please dont judge what got me to this point without knowing what happened or experiencing it yourself?  feel the need to judge me?  walk a mile.  until you walk that mile in MY shoes dont try to bully me into doing what YOU think is right.  walk a mile my dear friend walk a mile and while you are at it, keep your self righteous judgements to yourself.